Editor's Note: Joy is a word
that is seldom used today except during the holiday season.
Yet "JOY" is what we seek every day. We look to
relationships, career, kids, and material possessions to find that
So why is it that so few of us
manage to find the joyful spirit that we so actively see? Dr.
Paul identifies joy as something that comes from within us.
Read further to learn the basis of developing the inner joy, the joy
of the spirit.
The Joy of Spirit
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
I have counseled individuals,
couples, families and business partners for the past 35 years and
authored eight published books. All this experience has resulted in
the development of a profound healing process, called Inner Bonding,
which anyone can learn and use throughout the day (free course
available - see resource box at the end of the article). One of the
results of practicing the Inner Bonding process is much more joy in
What brings you joy? What really
brings you joy, as opposed to what you think brings you joy?
We have all been taught that we
will be happy when we: find our soul-mate, make money, work at
something we love. Or, we will be happy and fulfilled when we have a
house, have a child, do service. Yet I have worked with people who
have and do all of the above and are still not happy, and I know of
people who have little or none of the above and are frequently
You might try to find your joy with
substances such as alcohol or drugs, but I have never met anyone
using these substances whose energy was truly joyful. You might try
to find your joy through getting love from others, or through
sacrificing yourself and caretaking others, but I have never met
anyone who was a taker or caretaker who was truly joyful. So, what
Joy is not the result of what you
do. Rather, you can find your soul-mate, make money, work at
something you love, have a house, have a child, or do service with
or without joy. Joy is a state of being that enters your heart when
you are open to learning and taking loving care of yourself.
Joy, like love and truth, is a gift
of Spirit. Joy, love and truth enter your being when your heart is
open. Joy is the feeling of exuberance and oneness that envelopes
you once you have opened to feeling your pain, learning from it, and
moving through it.
Joy cannot enter your heart when you are
protected against your pain. When you protect against your pain, you
close your heart to avoid the pain, and joy cannot enter a closed
heart. Thus, joy is the result of doing your inner work to learn to
keep your heart open.
Sometimes I am amazed by this
feeling of joy. I used to think that my joy would come from good
things happening outside of myself. I certainly love for good things
to happen, but often I find myself feeling great joy even when
nothing is happening!
I feel joy when my Inner Child
feels loved by me, important to me, cherished by me, seen by me,
valued by me. I feel joy when I attend to my wants and needs, saying
"no" to others when I mean no, and "yes" to
others when I mean yes. I feel joy when my Inner Child feels safe
inside, knowing that I am taking care of her, knowing that I am
connecting with my spiritual Guidance each moment so that we are not
is your birthright. It's what makes life worth living. Once you
taste it, you will want more and more of it. Yet too many people
stay stuck in their safety zone, thinking that protecting against
pain and trying to get love is what will make them safe and happy.
But do you really feel safe inside? Are your protections really
working to create safety within?
you are willing to be honest with yourself and see that your
protections aren't working, then maybe you will open your heart and
embrace your pain, with a deep desire to learn what you may be doing
that is causing it, so that you can feel the joy of Spirit.
About The Author
Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books,
including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?"
and “Healing Your Aloneness.” She is the co-creator of the
powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Learn Inner Bonding now!
Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com
Phone sessions are available.